I wish people would give it a rest with the name calling on Noirin in Big Brother, BB10. An argument ensued in the house tonight after she went to the bedroom to ask the housemates in there if any of them had called her a bunny rabbit, to describe someone who hops from group to group. Siavash had told her this in the absence of the said housemates. Apparently, he did this to help her. How is it helping her to make her feel insecure about her relationships with people? You tell her that the people who she considers to be friends with are sniggering behind her back calling her unflattering names, how is she to feel about that? She wanted to know from them so she confronted them. This was the fairest and most honest thing she could have done. She betrayed nobody because she did not say who told her.
Siavash is one of my favourites in the house so I am very surprised at this shit staring from him. If he really wanted to help Noirin then why not tackle the gossipers, kind of like Halfwit did on his behalf, and actually stand up for Noirin?
The person at the base of this falling out between Noirin and Siavash is Marcus. Siavash was the one other competition he had regarding Noirin and when he realised he could not have Noirin he made sure that Siavash would see her in a bad light. This way he knocks out the competition and isolates her, so he can then pounce later on. He is not finished with her yet. This man has anger issues, and woe betide the woman who he sets his sights upon as a love interest. Whatever the woman’s response to him would be reason enough to go on a vengeful trip if she is not interested. It would not matter whether she rebuffs him outright or after ‘friendship’ has developed turns down his proposal once made.
People have said that he is turning into another Sree. No. He is worst than Sree.
What was Noirin supposed to do with information such as that given by Siavash about people that she believes she is friends with? Of course, she went to ask them about it. She could have kept quiet and let it fester having an inhibiting effect on her, and going on to aversely affect her relationship with the rest of the housemates. As a matter of fact, the housemates completely denied the accusations swearing on their mothers’ lives etc, so if what Siavash said was untrue what could be his motive?
As far as Noirin was concerned she is friends with most people in the house. This is not the reality for most people but it is her world to be friends with people.
That’s the thing about big brother or any situation where people come together from different backgrounds. It’s the fact that people arrive with their own unique mental culture based on their backgrounds.
Noirin has said in the past that the relationship she enjoys with her friends is very affectionate and she has a number of male friends who share in this affection with her. This goes on freely and without obligations or promises for anything beyond the friendship. She is used to having friends and making new friends easily with people where she comes from.
She is learning through her time in the big brother house that she will not find everybody to be on the same level with her. Learning and growing is a thing that we are doing all the time, and she is adjusting herself to the change.
People have criticised her following the clear attraction that people in the house have felt for her, saying that she was slow in letting them know clearly that she did not feel attraction for them in the way that they felt for her. People find Noirin to be a very attractive girl. She is warm, graceful, patient, tolerant and genuine. We saw these qualities on display in her handling of Sree, but, was swayed to become more firm with him following accusations from Siavash about ‘using and abusing’. People criticised her for not telling him right away that she did not feel for him as he admittedly felt for her. It was only 2 weeks into their meeting when he made his proclamation, she probably didn’t take it seriously. Who knows?
How has Noirin used or abused anybody? With Marcus she had been the one giving massages and doing his hair. These are easily the kinds of activities that she enjoys with her friends back home. But, I never even saw Marcus fetch her a cup of tea. Where does the accusation of using and abusing come into it? If anything it is the other way around. Following this he wanted something else. He did not go about discussing this with her in a respectful manner. Sree was even better in this sense. Instead, Marcus saw it as completely normal to ply her with drinks to intoxicate her and then crawled into her bed with her to make his proposition. I think many people can remember the eerie and cringe-worthy moment of him in her bed.
Even so she blew him out. Since then, he went on to slander her talking to Siavash about touching her in places he should not have done. Either he was lying or he was admitting assault on this girl disregarding her as a human being worthy of respect. This is a mistreatment of a girl who has been extremely tolerant of him. He has been highly critical of her calling her lazy.
Sadly, Siavash has played right into Marcus’s hands and has not seen through his scheme.
Things are closing in on her and it is down to the deviousness of this Marcus who seems to think that Noirin owes him something, like they drew out a contract when entering the Big Brother house.
Marcus is not a school kid. He needs to take responsibility for his behaviour. But, he still feels the need to act out some kind of vendetta on Noirin even though she has assumed responsibility, apologised and sought to change her way of relating with him that may wrongly encourage him.
Please relax the name calling on Noirin.
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